War and Beauty

Introduction

We all observe, we all analyze, we all tend to see things in a different way than the world forces us to. But, we never gave them enough importance and value, because we were programmed not to. My ideas are in everyone's head but the world is a scary place, if one doesn't follow what everyone is doing the fear of the unknown and the fear of being left out is more than what we can handle. Or at least, what we think we can handle.

But let me tell you one thing my friend, if anything I learned from my very short yet rich life that I have been gifted with is that the human body, brain and spirit are tools of infinite power, infinite tolerance and infinite capacity.

You think you may not be able to handle something you are scared of, but again the keyword is "think", it's all in your brain, and the mind can be reprogrammed to change this way of thinking. What makes us different? the choices we make, the different ways and choices that we chose to wire our brains. 

If everyone undergoes similar ways of upbringing, similar education, similar further education, wouldn't we all end up having similar dreams?similar fears? similar ideals? similar goals and similar personalities?

If your answer is no, then consider this question, why are we competing over things we have created? 

Yet again, this is the third article I write that revolves around peace and stems from theidentities problem.

We think we evolved and we became less racist, but what have we evolved into? we have evolved into individual identity racist. 

WE ARE WHAT WE THINK_

Let me start this article by this quote of mine:

"He who doesn't acknowledge the faults within, appreciate them, love them and is willing to learn from them could not be possibly able to appreciate any of the beauty that he or anyone or anything this world posseses." 

How many times did you blame anyone for something wrong you did or you failed to do? how many times did you fight with someone over something you "assumed" they thought or felt or said about you? or even better, how many times did you assume that the person sitting in front of you loves you, appreciates you, hates you, or is attracted to you? 

Well, many times, don't deny it here as well, not in my article! Let me start by saying that all these things you felt, assumed, thought or experienced about what the other person sitting in front of you might feel, assume, think about you are all in your head. In other words:

- When you assume that the person you're talking with is an asshole, well, how would you know what an asshole is without being one? 

- When you assume that that person has feelings for you, know for sure that you have feelings for them.

- When you see that all the world around you are full of ignorants, then you're the ignorant one for not trying to understand them.

- When you assume that that person is intelligent, then know for sure that you're the intelligent one for understanding what they're saying.

- When you assume that that person is judgemental and stupid, then know for sure that your limited mind has fooled you and made you judge that person which made you feel stupid.

and so on..

Your Labels and Your Brain Status

If that label your mind gave you is on the negative side, then know that the problem is in you. In my opinion you are not getting what that person is trying to say, you dont understand the way they're saying it in, and you may have some missing links.

If that label your mind gave you is on the positive side, then know that your mind pursues to become like that person. Here, your brain is in a changing process, not yet stable, not yet peaceful.

If your mind didn't give or project to you any labels when having a conversation with that person, then know for sure that this person is perfectly compatible with you and you MUST befriend them so that you'll walk the journey of life together, learn and experience together. If you're like that with everyone then know for sure that you have a peaceful mind and you're in the process of developing positively your brain.

But this is really tiring, why do we always have to give labels, define and categorize people and things? well, first it's how our mind was programmed to handle stuff throughout our lives, it's really a defence and attract mechanism, we are obliged to identify anything that passes by, it is the war of identities, the psychological war of survival.

That's why we pursue our evil desire (our emotional black hole) to obtain more identities to ourselves. These days, the more the "globally desired" identities we posses the more powerful we think we are, the more we are shielded, and sadly the more the world think of us as being powerful. 

But seriously, where is the beauty in that? unless you love psychological wars, consider them necessary and totally love what the world is going through right now you will disagree with me either because you simply weren't in the weak spot which billions of people are in right at this moment, or you are simply in denial that this is happening. but if you are that person, answer this question:

What is the source of the wars we have with ourselves and others other than the (not so apparent) identities we give to ourselves and others? 

You're an educated individual, coming from a high class in society, with a good reputation and money, why would you hang out with or talk to a homeless person?

Well unless you're open minded and you seek value in everything and everyone you simply can't!

Have you ever done that? if you have, then congratulations you have an amazing brain my friend and I really want to meet you. 

The Increadible Transformation 

Well, there is good news, brains can be rewired and our way of thinking can be changed! How can we start doing it? how can we start valuing everyone like we value ourselves? well, it's a hard but not an impossible process. Here we go:

The more peaceful you are the more you will see things to be beautiful around you and the more you will find beauty in people, and it is in fact such a great feeling and life to have. So why don't we reverse this phenomenal equation?

originally it is:

The more peaceful you and your brain are = The more beautiful things you see, the more beauty you see in people.

Why don't we make it this way:

The more beautiful things you see, the more beauty you see in people = The more peaceful you and your brain are.

Everyone has at least one beautiful thing that can be seen in their character or behaviour, even if there is nothing good coming out of that person, even if there is good coming out of that person covering the ugliness that is covering the good inside them.

But to convince you how much weak and unpeaceful we are try observing and thinking of these things: behind every anger there is fear, behind every problem there is worry, behind every fight there is strength, behind every judgement there is fear of being judged, behind every tear there is search for peace, behind every anxiety there is hope, behind every sad face there is desperation to be happy, and behind every smile there are many stories.

The Transformation Prerequisite

Before, we need to fulfil a prerequisite! the prerequisite is that we must see at least one beautiful thing inside us and stick to it, this will give us power and more power to see beauty inside other people.

5 major steps in which that can happen, practice and observe:

A- Find one thing that you hate the most about yourself, if it's not that clear, find a certain characteristic or behaviour that others don't like about you and hence makes you not like it or yourself in return. for example, it can be being too friendly, being too analytical, being too demanding, being too different in opinions etc..

B- Stop hating it, accept it and love it! 

C- Direct it towards people you don't know or things. for example:

- if you're too friendly, you are generally concerned about people and like to be involved in their lives, it means that you have a deep core that appreciates things, some people don't see it that way. So you need to direct it towards people who do appreciate it, these people can be found in hospitals (volunteering) schools, orphanages, elderly houses etc.. etc.. 

or

- if you're too analytical, and like to link things together, like to analyze, then direct it towards a bigger cause, not yourself, not other people, but it can be towards your work, courses, life in general, world issues, etc.. 

D- Step by step, you will discover that this trait that some people hated is actually doing you good! and is giving you a good feeling about yourself!

E- Keep doing this until the thing you hated before and you used to have wars with yourself about turns into the most beautiful thing you have, a trait that you wouldn't want to exchange for millions of dollars.

Your Transformation Outcomes

You will start experiencing these things gradually with time:

1-The more you see beauty inside you and appreciate it, The more positive energy you will develop in yourself (and you will feel it, it's a good feeling).

2-The more positive energy you develop in yourself, The more you and other people will feel it.

3-The more the people will feel your positive energy, the more they are comfortable and want to be close to you.

4-The more they are comfortable with you, the more they show the goodness and the beauty side inside them.

5-The more beauty they show you inside them, the easier it will be for you to see that beauty.

6-The more you see that beauty, the easier will it be for you to talk to them and the more positive energy you will develop inside them.

7-The more positive energy you will develop inside them, the more they smile at you and the more positive energy you will develop inside you.

8- The more the positive energy develops inside you, the more the beauty you will see inside you and appreciate it, and you will go back to step 1 and this repeats itself.

So Why don't we turn our wars into beautiful peaceful experiences? and if we are aiming for that, we have to start with ourselves first. 

Change comes from within, it's only when we change ourselves that we can direct and make healthy changes in other people, things and global issues.

Conclusion

Our goal is ALWAYS peace, and as long as we never have internal peace, we will never have an external one.

So far this has been the 3rd article about the importance of peace and the impact of its absence, and there are more to come. 

If you don't have enough inspiration yet then keep remembering all the great ones; our prophets, they all went through some time when they had nothing in their lives not even food or water and they were able to be peaceful and survive with it! and were able to change the way they and the world think for a very long time. 

May all your wars blossom into beautiful experiences and lessons.

Thank you for reading. 

iGammoh

Our Undervalued Instrument

Lately, I have been having a repeated scenario of the following dialogue: 

Friend: "HOW THE HELL DID YOU KNOW THAT?" 

Me: "Their Voice."

Friend: "WHAT DO YOU MEAN? you found out that that person is a good influence/ negative influence/ whether saying the truth or not/ having problems/ depressed/ having a lot on their mind/ expecting something/ waiting for something/ excited about something/ hiding something only by talking to them for less than 5 minutes?

Me: "Yes, sound travels fast doesn't it?" 

Friend: "Okay…?"

Me: "Ya, so you don't need more than 5 minutes of talking do you?"  ;) 

Friend: "I don't understand."

The thing my friend doesn't know is that everyone has the ability to do this kind of interpretation, but no one gives it value or importance, for me it has played me in a lot of important roles in my life such as which people do I choose to be close to and which ones should I keep away from, for my own previous serious reasons. thats why I gave it importance and developed it. Here's my explanation:

What do we give out when we talk? we give out and produce sounds! don't we? and what is the simplest definition of sound? sound is a form of energy transferred from one medium to another, this energy is defined by mostly 8 properties (we are not going to go in details about all of them) However, 2 of them can only be used for this kind for interpretation. Pitch and loudness.

Now in order to understand more, let us go in details about how we produce and detect sounds, I promise I will keep this as simple as possible, only if you bare with my drawing skills and try to understand what I am trying to say. But before, let us do an experiment together shall we?

Part 1

Step 0: Focus and take it seriously and observe.

Step 1: take 2 deep breaths.

Step 2: think and say in your mind "I love you" 5 times.

Step 3: directly after that say "I hate you" out loudly with your voice.

Part 2

Step 0: Re-focus and retake it seriously and observe.

Step 1: take another 2 deep breaths

Step 2: think and say in your mind "I hate you" 5 times

Step 3: directly after that say "I love you" out loudly with your voice.

Did you notice anything? in Part 1, when you said out loudly "I hate you" your voice was soft and soothing.

in Part 2: when you said out loudly "I love you" your voice was harsh and coarse. in both situations after saying the expressions out loudly you must have felt slightly confused! thats right, its your brain's way of telling you that something is not right. If you didn't observe that, re do it again. If you still didn't observe that, stop reading the article!

ILLUSTRATION A: PRODUCING SOUNDS

A  

Legend:

- The Beautiful Instrument Player: Our Beautiful Minds.

- Wind Instrument: Our wind pipe (voice).

- A,B and C: different sound waves coming out of the same person.

- Lines around the body and above the head: YOUR SPIRIT! joking, they're there for a dramatic effect :P

Our wind pipe is like a wind instrument, I am sure you've heard this expression before. Its true! air comes in your mouth or nose, and whenever we want to say something, the air inside is used by our wind instrument to produce the sound we want to project.

Also, as it is known, any wind instrument can produce different notes depending on the depth of the location in the instrument that air is being projected from, the deeper the sound produced means that air is being projected from deeper regions of the wind pipe, hence deeper regions in our body and vice versa.

The perfect voice coming out showing a perfectly healthy and a relaxed person is when the woman playing in the picture relaxes her hands (i.e the brain is relaxed) and thus sound is produced naturally and without any pressure and when sound is produced naturally, it resonates beautifully when it is heard or when it is projected into a room. When the lady in the drawing (again our mind) blocks many holes, a shallower high pitched or low pitched sound is projected, biologically the wind pipe is stressed, in the drawing we have 3 major examples:

A- This sound is high pitched, being projected from very shallow regions in the body, closer to the brain, people with high pitched voices are sensitive and easily get out of their peaceful zone due to excitement, tension, worrying and any reason that might trigger the production of adrenaline. They tend to think more and fast (For healthy or unhealthy reasons) people with high pitched voices show an amplified version of their character.

B- Sound produced from this region sounds much similar to your natural voice but without the resonance in it (everyone has a different natural voice, some are deeper or shallower than others, but it is the sound produced when you're 100% relaxed), sound produced from there is not too close to the heart or not too close to the mind, people with "similar-to-their-natural-voice" voices tend to be people who are clear, direct, and good talkers. But still not everything said may always reflect their true character or what is really going on inside their minds.

C- Sound produced form this region is often deep, slow and lacks resonance, its a sound produced after the air goes deep down and gets close to the heart, people with deep and no resonance voices often lack motivation, depressed, having a lot of emotional problems. The status reflected from this type of voice often shows a de-amplified version of the person's character. These are people who chose to think slowly, be patient, cautious and more observing.

ILLUSTRATION B: DETECTING THE SOUND

B  

Detecting and acknowledging sounds has lost its value and importance throughout time because people got really busy in being superficial, this is not only applied to listening, but also to all of our senses. This is probably due to the fact that throughout time the amount of things that we see, hear, feel and taste became more than what our senses can handle hence welcome to being superficial!

Songs and music are probably 99% of the world's population's current best friend. why? the answer is simple, songs like humans are a continuous flow of energy (in this case its sound) for a specific period of time, that may also include information if there is a singer. like humans, songs and music portray certain emotions and thoughts (if there are words). So answer me, do we love anything more than people or music who share the same emotions as we do? when we are sad we listen to sad music, it makes us feel calm, or share the sadness with a friend who understands (shared the same emotions). when we are sad and want to be happy, we listen to exciting music or call an exciting friend. when we are happy and excited we listen to exciting songs and call exciting and happy friends. etc.. etc..

Understanding what someone is saying is different than understanding what someone is portraying.

Some people say happy stuff while portraying a sad character.

Some people say professional stuff while portraying a non serious character.

Some people say informative stuff while portraying weak character and a character full of doubt.

Some people say useful stuff while portraying an offensive passive aggressive character (I used to be this way, I apologize for some people)

but which ones should we pay attention to? well believe it or not most people (also there are exceptions) without knowing it pay attention to the "way stuff are said" and ignoring "what is actually being said". And would actually reply based on the way stuff was said alsowithout knowing it. The best interpretation is to do both, to keep focus of what the person is saying and the purpose of saying it, but we are often misguided by our ignorant minds. This needs practice and awareness to get used to pay attention to both.

Whatever you have been through in your life, whatever experience that led you to a certain emotion you have felt is recorded and engraved in your brain, and if you are aware of all of your emotions (sadness, strength, passion, love, stress etc..) very well and identify them when you feel them yourself, you can actually detect and identify sounds (energy/ emotions) coming out of people and know what are they feeling, because we are the same human beings (ILLUSTRATION B). Sounds coming out of people can also be accumulated inside your brain to build the character of that person according to your own perspective, and what is a character other than a set of different emotions? Does this ring a bell? ;)

WHAT IS THIS USEFUL FOR?

1- Choosing people in your life: We are often reminded of the quote, always be around people who would lift you higher, well guess what? this technique will help you detect those people. everyone has this technique inside them but most are probably not aware of it, or chose to ignore it. And if you are smart enough and not selfish, you would sometimes feel that you can't be a a positively influential friend on some people, and would make yourself step away.

2- Preparing your voice for many purposes: besides knowledge, job interviews often select people which high passion and motivation which can be detected from your voice, that is given that the interviewer knows what passion or motivation is and have their corresponding emotions recorded in their mind. A speech needs a voice full of confidence and power so that people would listen, which is also reflected by your voice. etc.. etc..

3- Being there for a friend/ member of your family: we often confront people who chose to lie about what they are feeling, but the truth is no one can hide what is going on inside them from their voice, if you feel that someone is sad but you see them smile, go with confidence and tell them, "is something wrong? you can talk to me" and if that person feels safe around you, they will.

WHAT TO DO?

1- Pay more attention to your voice.

2- Train it, and give it importance.

3- Know exactly what is the range of the instrument inside you.

4- Observe the voice that comes out of you when you are in different states of mind and memorize them.

5- Try to understand the voices coming out of people and your friends and not only what they say, but dont always act upon the way stuff said because some people are not aware of how to project information the correct way, but this is important for other reasons, who knows someone might be in deep trouble without showing it.

And last but not least, Always try to be relaxed and in peace so that you will always be in a state of mind that doesn't only produce your own natural beautiful voice but also reflect your true beautiful character, and many other great powers that peace gives you.

here's a 100% sample of my natural relaxed voice and a 75% reflection of my true character: 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfI77G8Z9VE

(from minute 0 to 1:00)

hope you enjoyed and benefit from the reading

enjoy your own resonance :) 

iGammoh